A brand spanking new marriage.

When a couple enters into a marriage they are bringing the values and beliefs from two separate families together to form a new family. Often a spouse will not completely separate themselves from their parents and will lean on them over their new husband or wife. When this happens their spouse may feel that they are not trusted or are lacking something when in reality it is just a simple matter of fully leaving the parent and completely binding themselves to their new spouse.

It is a command from the Lord that we leave our parents, and as the scripture in Genesis 2:24 says "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife:and they shall be one flesh." we must leave our parents and become one with our new husband or wife to create a new family. When the Lord said that a man was to leave his family, it was not meant to be taken as completely cutting himself off from his family and not speaking to them anymore, but to confide in and be one with his new wife.

Once the couple has separated themselves from their parents they need to make sure that the parents know that they still matter but that the new couple will be making decisions together and that their needs come before the parents. A new couple needs time to figure out their plans for a family, jobs and school and that those decisions are to be made by them but that it is ok for a parent to offer words of encouragement when times are rough. When the couple expresses their needs to the parents, and the parents understand, the couple is able to create a strong bond with the in-laws while staying true to each other and the new family that they have created.

New marriages are wonderful and need to be nourished solely but husband and wife, but care needs to be taken to not hurt parents when the need for inclusion arises. When a couple has separated themselves from their mother and father, and have become one, they are able to safeguard themselves from outside sources that seek to destroy the marriage. Marriage is wonderful and blessed by the Lord when the couple becomes "one flesh"(Genesis 2:24). The devil seeks to destroy marriages in any way possible and educating ourselves and working hard for a better marriage will help build up the kingdom of God in our homes and the sacred bonds of marriages.